Who should initiate intimacy?

Statistically speaking, this is generally the husband. If we think in terms of roles, we can identify one spouse as the usually initiating and the other as usually receptive. Sometimes, one or both spouses might also be resistant — avoiding or not wanting sex.

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What does all of this mean?

This means if you are the husband and feel like you typically initiate sex in your marriage, you are among the majority and, in fact, quite normal. So is your wife. This dynamic is tied pretty closely to the type of desire we experience as males and females. Note that if you are a lower drive male or a higher drive female, your marriage may seem “backward” in regards to who initiates. This doesn’t make you broken or strange. You are like about 1 in 5 people.

Being “Resistant” for a day or two can be normal and is not wrong in and of itself. Talking through the “why” of these times with your spouse can help you gain a better understanding of what roles you each play and can be part of a healthy intimacy-building process. If you consistently live in the resistant category, however, I recommend you problem-solve for yourself. Do you know why? What are you doing to resolve the block?

What was particularly interesting to me as I reviewed the survey responses was the number of individuals who do not initiate even when they are interested. Of those spouses who identified themselves as primarily receptive, 31% said that even if they were “in the mood” they would generally wait for their spouse to initiate. Over 42% said they would sometimes wait for their spouse to initiate even if they were interested in sex. There may be a number of reasons for this, but if you tend to wait for your spouse to initiate even when you are “in the mood,” do you know why you wait? Sometimes waiting a bit is best for your marriage. Sometimes it’s not. I do think this is worth talking about as a couple!

Application:

I invite you to have a Working Date as a couple. Discuss the following questions.

Which do you think is most characteristic of you in your marriage? Initiating, Receptive, or Resistant? Why do you believe that is most characteristic of you?

Do you like this role in your marriage? (Not do you want your spouse to be different, but do you like who you are?)

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How often do you wait for your spouse to initiate even if you are in the mood? What are your reasons for this Remember to stay curious. Your spouse is not you and doesn’t think or want like you. Rather than trying to convince them to be something they aren’t, seek to discover who your spouse is.

Sex Therapy in Atlanta, GA Can Help

We know that sex is a sensitive issue. We know that it’s not easy to talk about. That’s why our sex therapists are specifically trained to help you push through this sensitive time. If you’re wondering if your partner will ever initiate sexual activity or feeling like your intimacy altogether could use a re-charge, get connected with sex therapy in these three, easy steps. Schedule your first therapy visit here with our Client Care Coordinator. Check out our team of sex therapists and decide who you’d like to work with! Re-connect with your partner in an intimate way again!

Other Services at Building Intimate Marriages

If a couple is struggling with one thing, chances are there are issues in other parts of their relationship too. Here at our Atlanta, GA area therapy practice, we believe in working on all of the issues that partners may be facing, not just one. That’s why we offer a multitude of services even outside of sex therapy. This list includes marriage counseling, pre-marital counseling, and affair recovery. If the relationship is approaching a break, we can help you with that too. Get connected with our discernment counseling and divorce counseling. We would be honored to help you in all intimate parts of your life!

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