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Here are five steps to starting over after a breakup that'll have you feeling like your old self again. Talk about your breakup — but make sure it's a constructive conversation. ... Socialize with a supportive group of friends. ... Beware of social media. ... Write down what you learned from the relationship. ... Practice gratitude.
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Learn More »After one particularly bad breakup, I signed myself up for piano lessons. Attempting to master the keys not only helped pass the time, but kept me distracted from trying to follow my ex's every move on social media — and gave me something to talk about with my friends other than the aftermath of my failed relationship. As it turns out, channeling all that free time into something creative can actually help ease post-breakup pain. "Starting a new hobby or honing one new skill expands your mind and can also boost your self-confidence after a breakup," says Patti Sabla, LCSW, a social worker practicing in Hawaii. I never got past learning the chorus of "Let it Be" — but I did get over the breakup with some help from The Beatles. However, if the thought of getting off your couch post-breakup seems beyond the realm of possibility for you right now, Sabla says staying in can also be beneficial to your healing process, as long as you eventually shake off those Cheetos crumbs and rejoin society. "There is nothing wrong with curling up on the sofa and binge watching sappy movies on Netflix for a few nights," she says. "But if that becomes your regular Friday and Saturday night routine, it's time to take action."
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Learn More »If the idea of facing a large group of friends or family seems too daunting, start with the one you feel most comfortable with (who also have a knack for getting you out of the house). "Socializing, even when you don't want to, gives you a change of scenery, the opportunity to meet someone new and a reason to put on pants and comb your hair," says Sabla. "Many times we dread going out, then once we are there we remember how much we enjoy it." Post-breakup, your brain is craving those feel-good chemicals that you used to get from spending time with your ex. So get out and relax, laugh a little and spend time with the people in your life who make you happy (who you probably didn't see enough of during your relationship). Beware of social media. Going through a breakup in a time where your ex's whereabouts are just a few clicks away adds another layer of confusion. How you handle the situation really depends on how things ended between you, and the network you share. Amy Cooper Hakim, Ph.D., a therapist practicing in Florida suggests being honest with yourself about two questions: Will it bother me if my ex knows what I’m up to? Will I be tempted to cyberstalk my ex if we remain connected socially? If yes, it's probably best to end the relationship online as well. Also, keep in mind that social media is where we put our best selves forward, which can be hard to witness when a breakup is fresh. Seeing photos of your ex looking happy doesn't mean they've gotten over you so easily — or that you're behind in the process — but it can feel that way. Which is why it is a smart idea to hide their updates at the very least, if you can't quite bring yourself to "unfriend" them altogether. Going through a breakup in a time where your ex's whereabouts are just a few clicks away adds another layer of confusion. How you handle the situation really depends on how things ended between you, and the network you share. Amy Cooper Hakim, Ph.D., a therapist practicing in Florida suggests being honest with yourself about two questions: Will it bother me if my ex knows what I’m up to? Will I be tempted to cyberstalk my ex if we remain connected socially? If yes, it's probably best to end the relationship online as well. Also, keep in mind that social media is where we put our best selves forward, which can be hard to witness when a breakup is fresh. Seeing photos of your ex looking happy doesn't mean they've gotten over you so easily — or that you're behind in the process — but it can feel that way. Which is why it is a smart idea to hide their updates at the very least, if you can't quite bring yourself to "unfriend" them altogether. Write down what you learned from the relationship. One of the most important things my ex taught me was how to fight fair — by doing the exact opposite of that throughout our relationship. Making a physical list of what you've learned from a relationship not only reinforces reasons why you weren't a good fit but helps give you a better picture of the type of partner you're most compatible with. "Spend a healthy amount of time in self-reflection so that you can examine what it truly is that you didn’t like about your ex," says McNulty. "Did they make me someone I’m not? What did I compromise that made me resent them? What did I like about them? What am I looking for in the future?" One of the most important things my ex taught me was how to fight fair — by doing the exact opposite of that throughout our relationship. Making a physical list of what you've learned from a relationship not only reinforces reasons why you weren't a good fit but helps give you a better picture of the type of partner you're most compatible with. "Spend a healthy amount of time in self-reflection so that you can examine what it truly is that you didn’t like about your ex," says McNulty. "Did they make me someone I’m not? What did I compromise that made me resent them? What did I like about them? What am I looking for in the future?" Practice gratitude. After a breakup that forced me to move back into my parent's basement, my father told me, "I know you're sad now, but happiness is a choice. You can to choose to be happy." Some days that was harder to do than others, but realizing I had agency over how I was feeling — even while mourning the loss of a relationship — was a revelation to me at the time. "When you spend your day looking for something positive, your mood and overall outlook changes for the better," says Hakim. "You spend more time appreciating the beauty of the world around you and less time focusing on the breakup."
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