Popular Euphemisms for Death Passed, passed on, or passed away. Resting in peace, eternal rest, asleep. Demise. Deceased. Departed, gone, lost, slipped away. Lost her battle, lost her life, succumbed. Gave up the ghost. Kicked the bucket. More items... •
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Euphemisms are a way to convey something without saying a specific word that may be considered too blunt or direct. "Death," "dead," and "dying" are terms that are often couched in more indirect, evasive, or protective language, such as a euphemism.
Let's look at some popular words and phrases often used in place of death and dying and discuss the pros and cons of using such euphemisms.
Popular Euphemisms for Death
Here are a few common phrases and groups of phrases that are used to refer to death or the dying process. Some of them may be considered to be a more gentle way to express death, while others refer to a specific spiritual belief of what happens after death.
Passed, passed on, or passed away
Resting in peace, eternal rest, asleep
Demise
Deceased
Departed, gone, lost, slipped away
Lost her battle, lost her life, succumbed
Gave up the ghost
Kicked the bucket
Didn't make it
Breathed her last
Went to be with the Lord, went to Heaven, met his Maker
Was called home, is in a better place
Different cultures, locations, and countries vary considerably as to which euphemisms are most commonly used.
Why We Use Euphemisms
There are several reasons why people use euphemisms.
For Protection
Euphemisms for death and dying are often used to protect someone, whether it's the person speaking the words or those hearing them. We may be looking for a more gentle way to deliver the news of death to someone or a way to provide comfort, despite the grief of the situation.
To Avoid Being Rude and Offensive
The goal here is to avoid increasing the hurt and pain of someone by being too direct since that could be interpreted and felt as being blunt, crass, or rude. We want to protect those around us by not "rubbing it in," so we might use a euphemism to refer to death.
To Avoid Discomfort
Death and dying are a natural part of life, but they make many people feel uncomfortable or anxious. Other kinds of language may be easier to use and less anxiety-provoking.
Our Own Grief Feelings
In order to use direct words about death, the speaker has to deal with his or her own feelings of grief and loss. Explaining to someone else that a loved one "didn't make it" is sometimes easier than saying that "she died." Death is final, and saying it out loud can be difficult when we're struggling to cope with the situation.
Out of Partial Denial
Similarly, using the word "dead" makes it difficult to deny the reality. And, psychologically, while denial clearly needs to turn to acceptance, a little bit of denial is not all bad as a short-term coping mechanism. Indirect language can sometimes be a helpful way to mentally and emotionally handle your feelings gradually.
To Offer Spiritual Comfort
For those who believe in certain faiths, the emphasis in death is the afterlife. Thus, saying that someone "went to be with the Lord" may not be an avoidance tactic at all, but rather a shared reminder of the comfort found in that belief.
Effect of Euphemisms on Children
Using euphemisms when speaking to children about death is usually not recommended. While the intention is to be gentle and protect the child from additional pain, indirect language is often confusing to a child.
A euphemism involving terms such as "asleep" or "rest" might cause them to misunderstand and become fearful of going to bed at night. Similarly, saying, "We lost Uncle Fred last night" could prevent the child from comprehending that the person died and instead prompt them to go looking for Uncle Fred because he's "lost."
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A child's understanding of death is typically quite limited because they often lack the experience of the death of others and, depending on their age, have an inability to comprehend what they don't know.
This can make death an abstract concept, and often the cognitive ability for abstract thought doesn't develop until shortly before, or even into, the teen years.
Hospice experts recommend using direct language with children to prepare for a loved one's death and in discussing death after it occurs.
Even though it may be difficult for the adult trying to talk with a child, it is recommended to talk about the child's sick mother as "getting ready to die soon," rather than referencing the mother as "not doing very well" or "going home."
Euphemisms and Those With Dementia
People with mild cognitive impairment, Alzheimer's, or another type of dementia might not understand indirect language very well. Previous research has shown that in dementia, the ability to understand a proverb requires the ability to think abstractly, which often becomes impaired as dementia progresses.
Euphemisms are similar to proverbs in that they convey information with subtleties that someone living with dementia might not fully comprehend. This can prevent them from being able to truly understand that someone died.
Use of Euphemisms in Health Care
While some euphemisms are used by friends and relatives in an effort to be kind, gentle, and polite, there is a different set of euphemisms that are often used by physicians, nurses, and other healthcare practitioners. Common medical euphemisms include:
Not doing very well
Declining
Failing to respond
Might want to consider comfort care
Seriously ill
Isn't going to make it
Treatment is futile
Expired
Despite working in a field where exposure to life and death issues may occur, many medical practitioners may still find it challenging to speak about dying and death directly. This can occur for several reasons.
Often, in an effort to deliver news in a gentle and tactful way, medical personnel may use euphemisms to convey bad news to a patient or his family members. This is driven by compassion and a desire to cushion or soften the blow. This can be appropriate and helpful for some families, but for others, it could prevent them from fully understanding the situation.
Despite being trained for years on healing the body, healthcare practitioners sometimes have little training on how to cope with the emotional impact of caring for patients who die.
At other times, euphemisms are used when there is a fear about how someone will react to the bad news. For example, indirect wording might be used if there's a concern that family will become angry or will blame the medical staff for the person's decline and eventual death.
Impact on Healthcare Decisions
Euphemisms may sometimes disguise the reality of the situation, and those dealing with an impending death need to be assisted in understanding what is happening.
This potential lack of understanding could prevent the patient or a decision-maker from having a good grasp of the information and health condition, making it more difficult to make decisions about medical care.
Imagine this scenario with the following words:
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The doctor states, "I'm sorry to tell you this, but John isn't doing very well. We would like to make sure he's comfortable by giving him this medication. Is that OK with you?"
The doctor states, "I'm sorry to tell you this, but John isn't doing very well. In fact, he's showing medical signs that he is likely to die in the next few days. We would like to make sure he's comfortable by giving him this medication. Is that OK with you?"
The different phrasing in these communications could give a very different picture of how John is doing and what his prognosis is. Some might understand both as meaning similar things, but others might read the first example as just a general statement that John is sick and that some medicine will help him.
Interestingly, a study was conducted about the language and processes used to inform families of their loved one's medical condition. The researchers found that despite the grief that resulted from hearing direct terminology used, family members preferred having more knowledge and a better understanding of how sick their loved one was.
Even in cases where the patient did survive, family members reported long-term benefits of knowing that their loved one had been sick enough to die. They also were more likely to feel that the communication they received from their medical care team was effective and to feel satisfied with the care the patient received.
A study found that caregivers of people receiving palliative care (comfort care) wanted the medical staff to use the specific words death and dying, to speak directly about their medical condition, to avoid using euphemisms, and to talk about the impending death in front of the patient, as opposed to going in a different room away from the patient.
When Euphemisms Are Appropriate
Indirect language to discuss death and dying might be appropriate if you're discussing a future possibility of death. For example, if you're speaking with your cognitively intact parents about why they should plan ahead and designate a power of attorney for health care, you might not need to be so direct with your language.
Also, as earlier noted, euphemisms can often be appropriate when used for protection and comfort.
When to Use Direct Language
The words death, dead, and dying should be used when it's important to be very clear about what is happening. This includes when critical medical decisions are being made based on the prognosis of the patient, when speaking with those who might not fully understand indirect language, and when there might be a language barrier that might hinder understanding.
A Word From Verywell
Several words and phrases can be used as euphemisms for death, dead, and dying. It's important to understand the benefits and potentially harmful effects of using indirect language and to choose your words carefully, depending on your purpose and the audience with whom you're speaking.
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